This is it four-Game you don’t want to be involved in.
A California sex therapist has shared the four things she’d never do with her partner in the bedroom – and her love advice has resurfaced as people vow to make 2025 their hottest year yet.
Vanessa Marin first shared her tips on Instagram last year, saying she had settled on four tips after working with thousands of couples for two decades.
Despite being a sex expert, Marin admitted that it took her time to become completely comfortable with her husband.
“For Xander and I, it’s taken us many years to figure out what a supportive, compassionate, responsible relationship looks like for us,” she said.
“Remember, you are a team and can work together to create a relationship that feels even more supportive and compassionate.”
First on Marin’s list of four no-no’s: forcing her husband to do all the initiating simply because “he’s a man.”
The sex-positive contraction proclaimed that both partners could foster intimacy—and also implied that men like it when a woman expresses her desire for sex.
Second: Marin would never make her husband feel bad if he wasn’t able to do the dirty work.
Other sex therapists have stated that it’s important to respect your partner and give them space when their libido isn’t hard to get going.
According to a previous study, putting pressure on them in a relationship will make them associate sex with negative emotions in the future.
The third thing Marin would never do with her husband: keep quiet about what she wants in bed for fear of hurting his feelings.
The therapist believes that a vibrant sex life can only happen with open communication, which means that it is essential to discuss your desires with respect.
“Be sure to discuss new boundaries and expectations with your partner in a patient, respectful and intentional way,” she said.
Finally, Marin says she would “never make it” if her partner suffers from performance issues.
The shrink says that many people take it personally when a partner suffers from erectile dysfunction – whether it’s one time or something more frequent.
However, “crying, throwing tantrums and saying ‘you don’t have to pull away from me'” is likely to lead to increased performance pressure and stress.
Followers were thrilled with Marin’s advice, saying it would surely help their sex lives.
“These are great!” one person cheered. “There are so many ways we set ourselves up to fail with rigid expectations. Thanks for sharing.”
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