Dear Abby: My friend judges me I’m poor – but her ex -i pays for all her sharp things

Dear Abby: I met a few months ago during a short work situation. We hit a friendship (or so I thought) and we had lunch or dinner together several times. Recently she has divorced, and she has a fancy house, a lot of expense clothes, bags and a mega-driver vehicle, all she paid for the former.

Now I have received the special impression she judges me for my modest home, etc. I don’t think I’m wrong about it. It is a combination of small things, how not to post our appearances on social media as you do with other friends, for example, and come around when it suits it.

At this point, I almost even want a relationship with her because she seems to be superficial. If and when it comes around, how should it fall polytely? Or would it be wrong to say what I feel is happening? – Incompatible in Texas

Dearly incompatible: I can think of no polyte way to tell people their values ​​are wrong and superficial. The woman is not likely to change them on this late date. A polyte way to drop would be to say what you are not available. If she suppresses you further, tell what you don’t think you are both compatible.

PS before removing it, examine your motivation to love to do so. Can this be because it has many more material things than you, you feel aware of this? Simply asking …

Dear Abby: I have been married for 17 years, and we have had landing -our raising. Recently, I have noticed that my husband no longer wants to go on trips together. He went on a weekly break with his system shortly after doing surgery, and he made another weekly trip to visit them and his grandchildren and grandchildren. When I talked to him, his excuses went from “it will be very full of people” up to “are a lot of money”.

This morning, I put my foot down. I said I’m leaving for a weekend trip, and he could come with me or stand back. He was upset. I work from home, long hours and have not had a rest near one year. I am starting to satiate with her attitude and unwillingness to travel with me. Am I wrong that I want a weekend away from home? – Exit from the city

Dear Outgoing: Not in my book. You deserve to know the reason for changing your husband’s attitude, which I suspect has little about being very crowded. Can there be money problems that you are not aware of? If this is not the case, you and the hubby need an honest conversation or two for what may be wrong. If he is not future, it may be time to call the help of a licensed marriage and family therapist to help you both communicate better. In the meantime, go on that trip.

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