Dear Abby: I’m dying – and I’m not telling my husband or children

Dear Abby: I am in the early 1930s and deal with a disease that can kill me. I am eight with dead, and I do not want any treatment. I just want to go.

I have been involved in suicidal thoughts, depression and self-harming since the age of 13. The problem is my children, my husband and close family members. I don’t want to tell anyone about it, and I don’t want sympathy.

I don’t want to leave my children and husband, but I don’t want them to see me sick or die. I don’t want them to cry. I prefer to do this myself. Who knows? I can do it. Should I tell them what is happening or let them hang? – Challenged in Ohio

Dear Challenged: I’m sorry for your scary diagnosis. Please don’t leave people who love you dependent. Your husband will see you weakening and increasingly sick. Your children need to be prepared, in an age -appropriate way, for the changes you will experience so that they do not think is their fault. So everything you can to manage this disease, including talking to your doctors about your mental health history, and think positively, because you can really do it. If you do this, your family will be stronger for him.

Dear Abby: I lost my husband in the middle of last summer. He had a long stroke and Alzheimer’s illness, and he was terrible for me. From all 40 years of our marriage, we had only four good things.

Over the past three years, a gentleman from work would help with things around the house my husband could no longer do. He would talk to both and then continue his way. I took care of my husband 24/7 for the last two years of his life.

I see this man at work all the time. He lost his daughter about the same time as I lost my husband. We have carried out and talked a lot. I bought a tree this year for Christmas with gifts.

One day after Christmas, we celebrated together. We have been together every day since. He treats me well. My children worship Him. My only hanging is that because he has not dated for more than 20 years, he is not very affected. Besides, he is great for me. If I mention that I like nothing, he will buy it for me.

So I get a man who has a hard time kissing and hugging me because he shows love in other ways, or should I continue? I have many families, so even though I would be alone, I would never be lonely. – Asking yourself in the west

Dear to ask: The man you’ve seen has a lot for him. I don’t know why he is not affected, and neither, it seems, yes. Please make a quiet, straightforward conversation with it. Tell him how scary he thinks he is, but the fact that he is not physically loved is a problem for you. He may not know how or not be able to give you what you are looking for, but it would be a shame to end the relationship over nothing was unheard of.

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