Dear Abby: My relatives continue to place clumsy decoration in my dead girl’s grave

Dear Abby: We lost our 16-year-old daughter two years ago in Leukemia. It has been difficult two years. I’m writing to ask if there are rules of courtesy to visit a girlfriend in the cemetery? We go regularly. I decorate the area in front of its stone with vacation or suitable seasonal decorations. Other family members and friends also visit, and most leave small trinkets or fresh flowers that I take and throws when they dry, or bring home and get into our daughter’s room.

My problem is, a family member opens the cards that are left there for my daughter, and seriously places the types of free decorations around her. Recently, they place decorations directly on its important that left large stands. Now we are left looking for a professional to remove them, or its stone will have to be replaced.

I’m next to myself. This is where I go to talk to my daughter to feel closer to her. It took a year for her stone to be placed. I took my time by choosing only the right labels and the photo, and it is a stone that suits our beautiful angel. Would it be wrong to set rules for what people can and cannot leave when visiting my daughter’s last place? Can I tell someone who are no longer welcome to visit? – Pennsylvania

Dear Protective: Please accept my deepest sympathy for losing your daughter. I hope that relatively damaged her stone required for her and volunteered to pay the services of professional cleaners. If not, you should suggest. And while you are in it, you can also explain what kind of memorandums you think have been appropriated.

Understand, however, that while you have the right to show your preferences unless there is a guard watching the last place of your daughter’s rest, there is no guarantee that they will be respect.

Dear Abby: We all meet the acquaintance and say, “Let’s catch the dinner.” We intend to follow, but we forgot. A time back, my wife and I make a list of 10 more couples that we would like to get to know better and organize a group dinner. On the third Saturday of each month, a couple hosts the group at a restaurant.

We do not meet at home or December, and, yes, sometimes only six couples participate, but they are often all of us. This is our 25th year, and we haven’t lost a month. During Covid we gathered with magnification. It’s not about food – it’s a careful set of friends who share with each other. Abby, I thought you might want to print this to inspire others. –– a host in Indiana

Dear welcoming: I think the lesson here is that someone should be proactive and actually make plans rather than set for good purposes. You have made everyone, including yourself, a tremendous favor. Loneliness and isolation are serious problems for many.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.dearabby.com or Yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.