Dear Abby: My boyfriend’s friend hit me – and he is angry with me!

Dear Abby: I’ve been meeting this guy for five years. Two years ago, one of his friends came to me through a text. I told him I am not the type of woman who cheats. He respected him and did not write to me again. I told my boyfriend the next day, and he doesn’t believe me anymore! Since then, he questions what I am doing and where I am and accuses me of lying every time. He thinks I slept with each of his friends. He traces me. He placed the camera up and accuses me of deleting everything.

I’ve never cheated it or even thought about it. All his accusations are removing me. He wants me to do a detector’s lie test to try I’m innocent. I don’t feel that I have to get one when I do nothing wrong. I literally sit in my house and go nowhere, but the grocery store. I don’t talk to a single person.

I chose to do everything he would stop the accused, but he always finds something wrong. Should I do this test to prove that he has been wrong for me all the time? Part of me worries that even if I do this test, he will find something else and will never stop. – Prisoner in Ohio

Dear Prisoner: Red flag alert! The uncertainty of your loved ones is out of the tables. His controlling behavior has nothing to do with you and all that has to do with his uncertainties. What he is making you is sick and abusive. You will never be able to secure this man’s doubts.

For your safety, I urgently You to end this romance while you still have enough self -assessment to manage it. If you are afraid of your safety while doing this, contact the National Domestic Violence Line in 1-800-799-7233 and seek instructions.

Dear Abby: Some of my friends discuss their plans in front of me without inviting me together. Do I have the right to feel excluded? I’m a woman in the late 20’s, and I feel stuck when friends and roommates make plans to sit without me while I’m staying there. A close friend reminds me of the girls’ nights and appearances with our mutual friends. It hurts, and it has made me feel like I’m not part of the group.

When I told them how this made me feel, they assured me that we were really friends and said I was “very sensitive”. I appreciate these friends. Because they are roommates, I can’t avoid them. For the most part, they are kind and conscious. Should I bring back my feelings sore or remove the matter and withdraw? – Strange girl out

Dear Girl: You may be “very sensitive”, but your roommates are clearly not sensitive enough. It is rude to do what they have done. If I thought about mentioning your hurt feelings would help the situation, I would advise you to do it, too. A better course of action would be to remove the issue and concentrate on doing New friends

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