If you can do this in your relationship, it’s stronger than you think, reveals the new startling study

Silence Up to Golden

A new study suggests that sharing moments of silence with your partner can actually be the sign of a healthy relationship.

Reading University researchers – whose work was published in the magazine Motivation and emotion – found that sitting in the dead dead with another important could be a sign of emotional intimacy.

“Consider two exchanges between romantic partners: they look into each other’s eyes sharing mutual intimacy and understanding, or, a glance instead expresses judgment and dissatisfaction as they now reach a common meaning that a partner has left the other, “.

“In both cases, nothing has been said too much is the community.”

To investigate “silence as a form of community”, the team conducted four studies to determine how its silence and motives influenced the quality of the couple’s relationship.

Participants were asked to think of a last episode of silence in their relationship and explain what caused the silence, while another group was asked to recall a silence experienced in a previous bad relationship. Then they were asked how often it happened and how it influenced the emotions and pleasure of their relationship.

When it comes to motivation for silence, they chose from a list of options, such as their important other they wanted them to remain silent, their partner would be crazy if they spoke, they were using silence as punishment or they wanted to ” feed “” silent moments.

Researchers found that the motivation behind the silence was indicative of the relationship – the silence perceived as a deliberate or hostile -induced negative feelings, for example.

But, based on the answers to the answers, “essentially motivated silence”, or natural silence, was accompanied by intimacy, proximity and connection, according to the work.

The tranquility that happens of course was associated with positive emotions – even peace – with high results of pleasure reported by participants.

Claudia Haase, a psychological scientist at the Northwestern University, who was not related to the study, congratulated the Reading Research University, which “really is looking at a topic that has received not as much attention as it deserves”,

Haase, whose research focuses on the interactions and emotions of romantic couples, said that the silent moments deliberately while enjoying something they both love – such as a common activity like walking or listening to music together – “are rich in love and bond. ”

“We do not always need to fill the space with conversation,” said the study author and psychologist at the Netta Weinstein Reading University. “The silent moment can be the powerful way to connect.”