Dear Abby: I am in a financial connection and my nephew must merge my car loan

Dear Abby: Eight years of action, my wife’s nephew needed a car. His parents had poor credit at the time. I took him to a car dealer where he found a car, and I did not become hexite to accompany the loan. He paid the loan on time.

Now I am in a difficult financial, and an opportunity for me would be to refinance my car loan. When I suggested that the nephew could send to me, there was an “non -immediate and pronounced” no! “by his parents.

Abby, this nephew is an adult and can make his financial decisions. I feel like I was stabbed in my heart. Was I wrong to suggest that idea? – rejected in Pennsylvania

Dear Refused: Considering that you had made a car loan to help this nephew, I could understand why you thought he would return the favor. That your wife’s family went inside and started it is special. Since your nephew is now an adult, he must have been the one who told you he was not comfortable associating with you. I don’t blame you that you feel hurt.

Dear Abby: I’m married for a long time. My mother -in -law has been a problem throughout my marriage. I have had serious health issues and many surgeries over the past 10 years. My cancer came back and I had to do a color operation just to mention one.

Recently, I have had hand surgeries. When my mother -in -law discovered, they couldn’t stop laughing at me. When one of them saw me again, she laughed and asked, “I was more planned?” I didn’t answer; I just left. I want to expect them from my life. My husband is not supportive. Am I wrong? – recovering in Indiana

Dear Recovery: Your mother -in -law has a sense of sarcastic humor without empathy. I can’t blame you that you want to defend yourself, especially your husband is not ready to protect you from his family’s harmful reaction. Avoiding people who hurt you is healthy and you wouldn’t be mistaken to do it. If you want to take a step back so.

Dear Abby: I was recently released from my job at a Christian school. It was heartbroken and I’m still crying because it. The problem is, we follow the church with which the Christian school is associated. I’m struggling to return to church. I don’t think I can bring again to walk through all the doors. I know if I see school administrators in the church, I’ll cry. I’m not sure how to stop sadness. How can I pass this? – Can’t proceed to Idaho

Dear cannot move: Did they tell you why you were finishing from your job? I am sorry that he did not share it. Your reason not to want to return to that church is understandable. You don’t have to see those administrators again. Contact the school online or by phone and ask for a recommendation letter to help you find a job elsewhere. Then pass this by joining another congregation.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.dearabby.com or Yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.