Dear Abby: I don’t want my alcoholic mother in the delivery room

Dear Abby: I am an adult child of an alcoholic. My mother is a middle drunk. As I grew up, I had to act as her therapist and deal with her dependence. I’ve been lucky to have worked out a lot of trauma in therapy and have a loving and healthy family of my own now. We actively avoid the mother after 3pm because I don’t want my children to be subjected to her cruelty. I don’t think it’s healthy for them to be about abusive, inebited people.

I’m pregnant. My mother has always wanted to be in the birth room for birth. However, I would prefer that she would not be in the delivery room with us. I don’t want to be around her when she is drunk because of her tendency to do everything for her, cause drama and bother me. I would not have to deal with her narcissism at birth.

We had our first child during the Covid pandemic, so we had an excuse not to have it there. The birth was extremely traumatic, and we are lucky that our child did it. My mother wants to be in the delivery room, as she could never have her children. I would like her to be there. We are very close and go well. How can I make the issue of my mother’s desire there, but not my alcoholic mother? – Submission of news

Dear Delivery: Here’s how: Stop podfooting around the topic and be completely honest with your mother. This birth experience is away younot for him. The patient should be calm and calm and not be exposed to any toxic energy Because an increase in mother’s blood pressure can adversely affect the baby. If your God offers the emotional support you need, you must have it with you and not forgive him.

Dear Abby: My friend “Ash” has two children. Both are educated at home and are unable to do many things themselves. I and ASH have very different views and philosophy for raising children. My children are of the same age as her children. Since her children were babies, she has allowed her daughter and her son to coexist with her and her husband.

Ash’s daughter is now 11 years old, and her sound is 9. The girl has started puberty, and it seems inappropriate for the children to be still sleeping with their parents at this age. I care about her children and am worried about their well -being. Should I face ASI for this? Or would I cross the line doing this? – Another mother in Texas

Dear mother: Parents have the right to raise their children as they see fit, as long as there is no abuse. Now that the girl is at the point where she is becoming a young woman, she can I want to have an intimacy. I don’t see anything to be won by mentioning this topic in grace.

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