Dear Abby: My friend asks to stay at night in my house – how to remove it?

Dear abby: I have an old friend who lives an hour from me. I visit it for the day and get home. I’ve never invited her to spend the night in my house, nor do I expect her to invite me for a sleep when I drive down to see her.

The last twice she visited me, she arrived at 9am, I assumed it came early because she wanted to speak all day. She waited for me to sit down and talk all day. She refused to do anything except and speak. I’m not a site, and I hated to do it, but she is a good friend, so I was done with her. Twice, around 5am, she went to her car and brought baggage waiting to spend the night. Then we ended up staying up to midnight so that she could speak even more.

How can I tell her that I would prefer her to go home at the end of the day? She has seen a psychiatrist for 50 years. It looks like it just goes to talk. She is also afraid of everything and has no hobbies or other interests. Can I do to end her uninvited overnight attitudes without damaging it or risking by sending it to the melting? – By easily treading to the west

Dear: You are not responsible for this woman’s mental health, nor should you be. She seems to have used you as an additional (unpaid) therapist. The next time she wants to come for another marathon conversation session, tell her that you would like to see it around 1pm, but you will not be able to enter its past 5. You have it with it will be imposed.

Dear abby: I am a 43-year-old woman who is not able to have children. No matter how difficult this is, I have sisters, friends and my mother who are wonderful mothers, and I look forward to celebrating them on Mother’s Day. However, every year on Mother’s Day, I fight. Foreigners assume that I am a mother, and the family overestimates the fact that I am not one. I was told “Thank you” and I was given trinkets and flowers in restaurants because strangers assume that I am a mother. My family has even given me the “wonderful aunt” gifts to celebrate the case.

I haven’t discussed my battles of fertility with anyone because it is very difficult and painful. As I understand and appreciate everyone’s goodness, I am fighting how to convey that I am finally not knowing. I feel it is cruel you have to discover my medical diagnosis to others in order to leave on a holiday that has nothing to do with me. How can I kindly say to people left me alone? – Never Mom in New York

Dear Mom: You are not the only person who meets this mother’s problem every day. You do not have to convey the message orally, which can be repeated as well as painful to you. Go online and search for buttons that hold the “childless” message. When I came, I was surprised with the variety available.

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