Dear Abby: I want to finally confront my sister -in -law how she treated my late brother

Dear Abby: My brother died of cancer per year. Throughout his 50-year marriage, I felt bad about how his wife treated him.

She kidnapped him and pulled her head from the time they first got married until his death, even when he was dying. I never heard him speak harshly in return.

I kept my mouth shut because I didn’t want to make things worse for it. He was a light, warm, fun person who was loved by many throughout his life.

Now that he is gone, I would really like to talk to my part with my sister -in -law. I think it would help me recover to finally say what it had to be said, but I could never.

I don’t care that I can end my relationship with her. There are two children now adults, one of whom I am very close. Your thoughts? – Conflicted in Iowa

Dear Conflicted: If you do what you are thinking, you are likely to finish your relationship with at least one of your brother’s children.

Before approaching your brother’s widow, make a discussion with the adult child you are close to. Explain how your brother’s gaze is orally abused by his wife, even on his deathbed, made you feel.

Say that you do not want to leave the close relationship you enjoy with her, but now, for the sake of your healing from the loss of your brother, you finally intend to transmit those feelings for their mother.

Because you don’t plan on having anything more with your wife, you can talk to your mind.

Dear Abby: I am a gay man who has made a relationship with a married man for the past three years.

They have split for a year, but no one has divorce files. I know he wants a future with me, but I’m not sure if he is brave enough to take the next step.

His wife is still “praying for gays” and still thinks the marriage can work. She sends him biblical verses and adores songs regularly.

He has always been homosexual, but because of the way his religious education grew up, he felt he had to live a false life. Although his family is not accepting, my family is, and they have met him.

My question is, how long do I wait? I don’t want to waste my life waiting for someone else to determine my future. – Cinderfella in Pennsylvania

Dear Cinderfella: You stated that your boyfriend is separated from his wife. One would think that after a year it would have become more comfortable for his sexual orientation.

The time has come to tell him that if he is not willing to seek counseling from a licensed therapist who can help him understand who he is and who wants to be, you will have to continue.

To live in oblivion in the way you are not healthy for you and HIM I hope your next relationship, if there should be one, will be with a homosexual man who is inaccessible and available.

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