Dear Abby: How can I convince my paranoid friend to get mental health help?

Dear Abby: How can I tell my friend that I feel she needs a mental health assessment?

She has been my closest friend for 20 years, and we have had a lot of evidence together. She has been married for several years to a man who looks very beautiful.

Abby, she is convinced she is being followed, but she doesn’t know who or why. She tells me about terrible arguments she has with her husband because she thinks he orchestrated the situation in public places.

For example, she claims that he sits herself able to see other women. The poor man is blind in one eye and has a limited vision in the other.

She also believes that his ex-wife flirts with her and he is likely to cheat with her, though they have divorced for 20 years. She opposes his contact with Bigkids and his family because of it.

I should add that her mother was diagnosed with the early Alzheimer’s onset at her age. Is heartfelt to see.

I have mentioned it many times as well as suggesting it to speak with a pastor or a therapist, but it tends to avoid it.

If I try to contact her husband, she will start to think I’m a traitor. I don’t know how to help. Please advise. – Trainwreck in Arizona

Dear Trainwreck: From your description of your friend’s paranoid and irrational behavior, she seems to be ill.

Because you and I are not qualified to diagnose what went wrong with it, it should be evaluated by a doctor.

Would not betray her to discuss this with her surrounding husband, who may be at a loss on how to deal with her behavior. Instead of a betrayal, seeing that she receives help would be a tremendous favor.

Dear Abby: I am an elderly citizen “young” (age 90). People sometimes think I am in the early 1960s because I watch and act it. I’ve been widowed three times by women younger than me.

I recently met a woman for whom I’m very attracted to. I think the feeling can be mutual. We have a lot in common.

The first time we talked on the phone, the conversation lasts more than three hours.

Last night, I learned as I talked to her because I’m older than her mother for a year. Would you advise me to “come back”? – only a number in Colorado

Dear only one number: If this woman’s mother is 89, she probably had her daughter between the ages of 20 and 30. This would make the woman you withdraw between 59 and 69.

I see no reason for you to “come back” or obscure your age. Because you both have a lot in common, enjoy the relationship.

(If she is brave enough to be with you after you have killed three younger women, more power to!)

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