Dear Abby: I hate to have visitors to my house and the outside world drains me

Dear Abby: How can I say polytely to people I don’t like for someone to visit me in my house? My home is my safe shelter. The energy of the outside world drains me, and I don’t want that feeling inside my home. This includes family members, friends, neighbors, churches and anyone else who may come to know in my door.

I have anxiety and some unsolved trauma that I am working on this contributes to this. I am happy to meet in a public place or visit someone in their home if we are both happy with them. My family cannot understand why I am so. They think they are right in my space simply because they are families. I don’t care about someone who thinks I’m weird, but how can I answer without feeling like I have to explain myself? – Introvert

Dear introvert: So don’t let anyone make you feel protective. If you want to get your point just repeat what you said. It is summarized, it conveys your feelings and your feelings must be respected.

Dear Abby: Is it eight to grieve the loss of a ex-husband from the beginning of your 20th if you have been married to someone else for 35 years? I’m not sure my current husband would not be somehow hurt by my feelings for loss.

The loss of my ex makes me feel upset inside and represent the end of an era for me. I’m already dreaming of the loss of my current husband. We have shared so many in many years together. – Sensitive in California

Dear Sensitive: No one lives forever, and is a waste of time to feel the inevitable. Because someone dies does not mean that the person should be avoided from our heart. People do not necessarily “overcome” the death of a loved one. Many learn to live with and manage pain. My experience has shown me that the next death can close one chapter of our lives does not mean another to open.

Dear Abby: I’m 25, I have my master’s degree and work for a big technological company and data in Georgia. I make big money, live myself and travel often. All that has been said, I am having a difficult time to find boys that match it. Sometimes, I feel like I am entering men who are not at my level.

I would like to be “equally choosing” with my partner, but sometimes I decided because some people have told me my standards are very high. Do you have any advice for a young woman who wants to be in a relationship, but only with a guy who controls all the boxes? – Wish for love in Atlanta

Dear desire: Yes. Start editing that list of yours, because limiting yourself to someone who “controls all boxes” can make it difficult to find a partner with whom you can be “equally”. And this is not “choosing”.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.dearabby.com or yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, Ca 90069.