Dear Abby: I am 21 years old – my removed family still treats me like a messy drunk

Dear Abby: I am an elderly man troubled. I was married to three children but drank a lot. My wife and I divorced after 20 years of marriage. We were both flawed. I have been remarried and divorced since then.

My children grew up and we had a great relationship. I had a great relationship with my grandchildren as well. Then, 10 or 12 years ago, my first wife starts talking bad about me, telling stories when I was younger. Some of them are correct, but many are decorated. My oldest daughter joined her mother in stories.

Over the past 41 years, I have had 40 years of dexterity (not consecutive). I’m 21 years old currently measured. These stories have grown in monumental proportions, and two of my children and some of my grandchildren no longer want to have contact with me. They say that “a toxic person never changes”.

I have always worked, I have never been arrested, retired by a company, I had a life of volunteer activities in my community and I was respected by most of my peers. I miss my family. What can I do? – Lonely

Lonely dear: Your ex-wife has told these fairy tales because she has an ax to grind. Her motives are not clean. Your oldest daughter has probably witnessed some of the wild behavior you exposed when she was pine while she was quite young. If these are her memories of you, she has the right to repeat them. However, it may be time for you to remember all your adult children that you are no longer the person you were when you drink, that you have had 21 years sober and are not “toxic” (a term that is often thrown these days), and you would like to have a relationship with them. However, if they are
Not wanting, you will need to form other relationships, so you are not completely isolated. Loneliness can be a killer.

Dear Abby: When my granddaughter walks in a room, she immediately takes on any developing conversation. Everyone has allowed this to continue, so I assume they are eight with it. However, I see it extremely rude and disrespectful. I often get up and went home than to confront it, which seems to be condemning her behavior. Is there a way to face it without it or the family get crazy with me, or should I just continue to “go home”? – Ear damage in Oregon

Dear sore ears: There are two types of people in this world. The first are those who enter a room and say, “Here I am!” Second are the ones who come in and say, “You are there!” The first individuals are focused on themselves. Second are the people who are welcome in Trol. Because the family has sentenced your granddaughter for years, I don’t think anything about it would now help the situation. For a quick exit, make sure your car is parked somewhere accessible.

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