Dear Abby: I was engaged to an elderly man who died – I don’t know how to go on

Dear Abby: I’m 36 years old. When I was 30, I was engaged to a man who was 50. He was the only man I have ever been in love with. He died suddenly from a heart attack, and I’m still traumatized. I often support that day in my mind. We were so deep in love.

After that loss, I don’t see how anyone can ever be compared to this. We were so comfortable with each other. He was gone very quickly, and I can’t go through the pain. How can I go on, or will I ever do? – Surviving sad in Michigan

Dear Surviving: Please accept my sympathy for losing your fiancé. You may need to talk to a therapist or join a support group of grief to help you in the trauma of his death. Once you have done it, start associating. If you open yourself in new relationships, you can meet someone with whom you are also comfortable and you can trust them.

I remember, years ago, a friend of my mother who was twice and in a long -term relationship after that. One day, she commented, “I couldn’t overcome it. My men were so different!” What she meant was every relationship was different, but everyone was loving and pleasant. Lucky, this can also happen to you if you allow it. You are still a young woman and have your life in front of you. It is within your power to make it a happy.

Dear Abby: I find myself less and less patient with my older brother and older sister. They are constantly lying about the things they have accomplished, always making them the best. I irritate me when I hear them saying things that are not true.

For example, while eating at a restaurant, my brother told a group of boys that he was a senior gun instructor. In reality, he retired to the Air Force, not the Navy. My sister claims she paid 100% of her college expenses, though my parents actually paid two or three years of her education, room and board.

My husband says I have to let him go because I only see him a few weeks a year. I don’t want to spend time with them because of their funny stories. What is the best answer when they say things that are simply not true? – Crying in Colorado

Dear Cringing: One way to deal with this would be to remove your sisters and sisters individually and ask privately why they feel the need to do so. Say to them that it makes you uncomfortable when you hear them lie, and that they will see even less of you if they continue to do it in your presence.

Dear Reader: This is my memory of Timelio for all of you living where you notice the time of saving day: don’t forget to return your hours Forward One hour tonight at bedtime. The time of saving the day begins at 2am on Sunday. I look forward to it every year because it signals long, brighter days and warmer weather. I find the extra light to be an elevator of mood and an energy. Spring has almost come out! – Love, Abby

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.dearabby.com or Yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.