Dear Abby: I’m married for 47 years. My wife has suffered from mental illness for more than half of our marriage. Two years ago, she left her medicine, became a maniac for 10 months and was hospitalized four times. A few months later, it was revealed that she had breast cancer. Fortunately, it was discovered early. After surgery and radiation, it is without cancer. I have stuck with him through all this.
During her manic period, her actions against me were just many. I can never love her again or love her as my wife. She has been smoking cigarettes, and while not smoking her close home when she gets inside. I’m just her guardian, and my life is deplorable. I have worked hard and saved hard enough for half, it should be eight financially. We have three adult children.
Is it wrong that I want to do a divorce and be able to enjoy the time I left on this planet? I feel shifting my burden for kids. Your thoughts, please. – Dissatisfied in Western Virginia
Dear Donathers: After 47 years, you have taken care of your wife through thick and thin. Because you have done well enough to make sure she would be eight financially, I see no reason why you should stay in a wedding that is unsafe. You have served your time. Now consult a lawyer on logistics.
Dear Abby: My brother and my husband are not accompanied. Despite the efforts on both sides to leave past feelings, they may not seem to make it work. I have a very small family, only my parents and my brother.
We have recently had our first child – my parents’ first nephew and my brother’s first nephew. My husband does not feel comfortable participating in family activities that my brother will participate. Has a problem for holiday planning.
I am torn to make both parties happy. If I choose to stay home and cook, I feel like I should exclude my brother. If I choose to go to his home, I am essentially dig my husband to our holiday as a family. Is there a third option? Maybe I can cook at home and meet them later for disserta? I just want everyone to be happy, and I’m not sure how to accomplish this. – Stuck in the middle in Michigan
Dear I stuck: If your husband would be happy at home with the child (or just), I think your idea of joining your parents and brother for dissertation is a good solution. Rifts like these are a unfortunate fact of life in some families, and in your case, everyone would be more comfortable without the tension your husband’s presence would cause.
Dear Abby: I give my stepfather a white check to pay for my wife’s birthday party. She advised me to choose the restaurant, but didn’t talk to me about anything else. She had dances and a magician plus candy and special champagne for Guests to get home. The amount was made more than I expected. Do you give an empty check a permit to talk what they want? – Off guard in California
Dear off guard: I’m betting on you. Instead of questioning your daughter’s judgment, you may have to question yours.
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