Dear Abby: I’m having a connection – my lover’s wife doesn’t know he is gay

Dear Abby: I am a homosexual man living in a mostly right community. About a year of action, a married couple moved inside. One day, my husband asked me to come and help him unite a table, which I did. He thanked me for opening a bottle of wine. Then he asked me what ignite me. I thought the question was unusual, but I didn’t keep it back – I told them.

We have had more meetings since then, and now I am feeling used and thinking about telling his wife. I think she deserves to know that her husband can be gay and sleeping with other men. He used some “lingo gay” that makes me think I might not be the only one.

I heard that there were some other neighbors who spoke badly about gays, and he did not defend or undertook for us. That too worries me. What to do? They live some doors down, and it is uncomfortable when I see him and his wife. She is always shaking and is a sweet lady. – Rethinking in Florida

Dear Reshinking: Your mistake was getting involved with a married man. You may feel “used”, but remember, you get into that issue with enthusiasm. I don’t think you have to be the person to tell his wife her husband may be gay. (He can be bisexual.) The person who gives her Tidb should be her husband if she doesn’t know already. As for you, it’s time to get out of the picture, don’t you think?

Dear abby: I am a 47-year-old woman who passes for the early 1930s. I understand that most women would pay money to see 15 years younger than their age, but people often make voice assumptions for me that are annoying.

I never felt that people take me seriously despite my two degrees of master and business that I started with three locations. For years, I have undergone a constant and insensitive bargain of questions and assumptions about my reproductive status. I’m taken enough to oppose “When will you have children?” With “God did not give me that superpower, so my husband and I are a dog parents who enjoy going on adventures.”

Now I’m passing menopause. Despite being in medication to check the symptoms, I often suffer a hot stroke while I meet customers. I keep a paper fan on my table, but I have a funny look from the clients when I grab it and start to leave on my red and sweaty face.

I will usually smile and take a minute to recover from the hot ignition, but I am inevitably told that I am “too young” to experience hot ignitions. As if they were true. My instinct is to oppose, “Well, my doctor would not agree”, but that does not sound friendly. Seed would you recommend as an appropriate answer? -Young -i in Missouri

Dear Ri-Si: When you are said to be “too young to switch to menopause”, rather than snoring, try laughing And saying, “Tell this my doctor!” Will receive the message without being a confrontation.

SP people may not be heard that menopause is known to strike women who are younger than you.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.dearabby.com or Yes Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.