In 1922, Emily Post published the Bible of American ways, “Eager”, devoting 33 pages to the topic of wedding good. It is full of well -known, practical and stunning citizens, which have been referred to by generations of brides since then.
“To start with, before setting the wedding date, the bride’s mother must definitely find out which day the clergyman who will perform the ceremony is scattered, and make sure the church is determined for any other service,” she wrote .
She continues to advise on other outdated procedures: visiting the invitation station when “her mother consults his mother” and what “Trousseau most extracagant” must calculate.
However, many traditions and expectations born of this meticulous era are still alive: floral girls and rings carriers, promises, kissing, “I do”, cutting the cake, first dance and other waiting celebrations.
But maybe not much longer, said New York wedding planner Alyssa Alinato.
“The traditions that have come out of the window are absolutely destroying the cake on someone’s face and a cast,” she said. “I don’t know how one thing was never. Boquet’s bouquet is also out. “
In what should talk about the final groan in the slow death of the Post’s Stationer’s agonization, “Save the Data” are also largely a thing of the past, Alinato added.
“It is dearly,” she said. “Only, like, 30% of my customers make it, and only for their older relatives.”
Other marital views of an once-family at risk of dodo-efficient: children, cake and after ceremony.
“I would say 90% of my weddings are allowed zero children. Acquisters hit or lose,” she said. “They will make dournuts or a croquetmbouche. The taking line out of the church lasts like an hour and we have given up on that.”
New, modern wedding labels are focused on love itself. “When it comes to wedding labels, I think everyone finally realized it’s about the couple,” Alinato said.
In November, New Yorkers Ben and Rachel Martin, both 29, celebrated their individuality, their interests and activities that marry them only as a duet, with a ceremony with joy Geeky.
“When I started planning our wedding, I wanted it to feel like us,” Mrs. Said Martin. “I didn’t want her to feel over traditional.”
However, they chose a seemingly traditional place, Chelsea Square, a historic part of the general theological seminar in Manhattan – though perhaps for less traditional reasons.
“The place gave us Vibes Harry Potter,” said Mrs. Martin, in which the couple bowed with a waiting dinner in the big hall with shells sitting on long tables.
“We like fantasy, and we also play Dungeons & Dragons, so we made our characters and painted them ourselves,” Martin said. Those characters, a half-tune, half a man and a fairy, became cake toppers.
“Cut the cake with a sword was Rachel’s idea,” Martin added. “In the office, we have one of the swords from ‘Game of Thrones’. We thought, why not?”
Other fantasy rolls in traditional elements included cellulists playing music from the Lord of the Rings menus, Limoncello served in the energy bottle and the bride’s tattoos completely on the screen. However, the posts were not discussed.
“Cutting the sword cake was Rachel’s idea. In the office, we have one of the swords from ‘Game of Thrones’. We thought, why not? “
The young man Ben Martin
“When I told my mum that we would have a long table, she left a little,” Ms Martin said. “It was like, ‘I’ve never heard of that. I don’t understand I feel like this is a lot. This generation of parents and people older than we in their opinion there are things you have to do in a marriage .
Despite the conflict, she joined beautifully, they said, but perhaps only because they were responsible for their finances. “Ben and I had to be like,” that’s what we’re doing, “Ms Martin said.
However, they included some yes -yestryar moments: a hand ceremony, promises, a first dance and breaking a glass.
As individuality now regulates the big day, there is still a strict code of labels that must be expected to follow guests. Alinato simply summarized it: “It’s not your day, so sit down and close.”
“You wouldn’t believe the number of people talking while toast is happening,” she said, pointing out that she recommends toast, promises and dance to all her customers. “People have side conversations, or they are in the grass getting drunk. It’s not the moment. ”
In other words, even in the most avant -garde race of ceremonies, they have a small décor.
Playing according to new rules
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RSVP in time. “So many people don’t respect that date,” Alyssa Alinato said.
Dress appropriately. “I swear by the Lord, I saw a boy wearing a truck hat in an official wedding once.”
Be respectful that is the day of this couple. “Many people do it for themselves. I have had people who have family situations. They have asked me to ask my mother to be removed. “
Make memories. “Parents’ dances are my favorite part of the wedding. I hope they never go away. They literally bring a tear to my eye. “
Celebrate discreetly. “I have definitely had people who go to the bathroom with some small dust situations, and get more or less. Everyone a sudden is all really sweaty.”
Bring a gift. “Duh.”
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Bring your children. “When they say” not kids “, bringing your kids no longer fly.”
Talk during special moments. “I don’t care if it’s a 35-minute toast, exercise, you have to be devoted to the person with the microphone.”
Let your teenager tighten. “This 15-year-old child stole a bottle of vodka, drank all things and continued to die almost in the middle of the wedding. We had to get an ambulance and try to do it discreetly.”
Supports on Google. “Everyone go to Google and they think,” Oh, that’s what I have to do. “There are funny tips. Get a planner.”
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