What is Fafo’s parents? This latest trend encourages ‘natural consequences’

If you see a gentle parent everywhere you are given ICK, don’t worry.

A new trend is growing – ‘f -k around and discover. “

Known in 2025 as Fafo on social media, the parenting style encourages children to ‘discover’ the natural consequences of their behavior that they have been warned against him.

“Authoritarian parenting but with a Subgenre Fafo”

For example, a child may refuse to eat their dinner just to realize that they are hungry later, or want to go out without a jacket and, surprisingly, to cool.

Creator of Tiktok Hey.im.Janelle first shared her experience with Fafo’s parents in 2022, and has recently been gained much more attention as the parents return to negotiations and (often shelter) associated with soft parents .

“I practice the parenting of the authorities, but within what I would consider a subgenre that I would call ‘f*ck around and discover’ parenting … [kids] Take their natural consequences and get to understand the way through them, ”Kanelle explains in her video.

Then she gives an example when she put Fafo’s parents in action.

“This weekend I first took my baby by camping with cube scouts. At one point, it was raining quite hard and the kids were all playing alone in camping. My son decided to no longer wear jacket his rain. “

Janelle said the decision ultimately belonged to him and she told her that she would not offer a new shirt if she was wet. Within 10 minutes, he realized what had happened and had to deal with the result.

She indicates that if she had any real security concern or danger of “dangerous” consequences, she would not solve faafo.

Most followers were quick to support her approach and shared their experiences.

“I love that. That’s what we do. My kids are safe and polysterers and thinkers! You’re doing well! “Wrote a viewer.

Another said, “because sometimes the best learning is not a lecture, it is experience. Learning from mistakes is how we grow up.”

“Fafo is my predetermined style”

I’ve always believed in Fafo, and now that my son is almost 18, I can say that for us, it’s work.

He usually responded very quickly to the tactic, having seen the natural consequences of his behavior.

WorkDeni work on everything, from not doing homework or studying for a test, and disappointed with the results, having a friend telling him your spirit is blowing in the morning.

As my son grew up, I would say, “This is my advice to you and I promise it is fine. XXX will happen if you don’t make a wise choice. But it is up to you. “

After all is that children can block words at best, and even more so when they are told what to do.

This is a truth that I accepted early – maybe because I was my parents.

Possible Parenting Fafo Parents

Of course, Fafo can have unexpected consequences, or severe natural consequences, so it’s definitely a matter of evaluating the degree of possible results – and security comes first.

For example, driving when your child is not going to the seat belt in order to make them do so, surely it will not end well.

This is more a fafo lesson away you.

Almost my adult is now learning to drive and wants his music while he does it; This is not even a Fafo situation.

That’s not a big one from me.

I would also say that you create complete indifference, to the point of making your child think you do not care about them or their safety, is an opportunity to consider – it depends on the child and you e know your best.

So, in my nearly 18 -year -old parenting experience, I would recommend this: let the warning, explain what can go wrong, then, safely, let them leave them.