Dear Abby: My mother -in -law should leave my home after 14 years?

Dear Abby: My wife and I have happened for 15 years. My mother -in -law, Pat “, a widow since 1997, has lived with us for the last 14 years.

She lives only in her apartment when my wife and I first got married, but we were going through times of depression.

Initially she prolonged the offer to decide with us until she switched to her depression, and I mentioned that it would only be for one year or two.

Well, 14 years later, I’m getting ready for retirement, and I think she is coming with my wife and me in our retirement dream.

How can I address polytely this? I don’t want to live with my thousands. I was generous who allowed him to stay with us for so long.

Anydo argument that my wife and I have had for the most part were due to Pat intervention. We both agree on this fact.

My wife and I associate well and compromise almost everything. Pat is healthy and young enough to be independent. She is also mobile enough to travel every day to direct her actions.

Please help me say that it is late for her to go further and allow my wife and the space to retire peacefully together. – Making a change in the East

Dear making a difference: You stated that your mother -in -law expects to live with you and her daughter in your new country, which indicates that the topic has been discussed to some extent.

Another “family conference” is now okay, the faster the better.

You and your wife have to explain this because you will move, it’s time you had to find a place of her own.

They expect that there will be resistance, so offer it to help it find a place and help with this action.

After 14 years, it’s time. Better late than never.

Dear Abby: My adult daughter is a magnet boom. All her relationships have the same result. Bum stays with him until he gets a better situation.

The present has been the longest, continuing for several years. It was difficult to admit it to be abusive.

She believed she is ever afraid. His hobbies of drawing pictures that describe extreme violence worries me that he can act one day.

Any suggestions for what I can do to help him? – Concerned Mom in California

Dear Mom: Healthy adults do not spend their free time fantasizing about extreme violence. They also do not abuse their important others.

Please remind your daughter that constant inclusion with someone who abuses her and makes her scared is endangering her safety or life.

If she is living with her, she has to move. If he is living with her, she must call the France-France number of the National Domestic Violence Line, 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org and seek help in forming a safe escape plan .

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