Dear Abby: My brother was hit with our friend’s wife – he is convinced she will love her too

Dear Abby: My younger brother, “Paul”, is 40 years old and in a routine. He became friends with a friend of mine, “Mitch”, whom I met at college. Paul also became good friends with Mitch’s wife, “Iris”. After a year of close friendship, my brother made a pass to Mitch’s wife during a BBQ. He was immediately asked to leave, and they have ceased contact with him.â

It’s been a year since Mitch spoke to Paul. Mitch has no interest in rebuilding relationships. My brother is convinced that Mitch’s wife will leave her husband for her, despite the fact that there was no community and she never expressed interest.

Paul has a long therapist who is aware of the matter. I am worried that my brother is spending his life leaning behind someone who is not an opportunity for him. He has never been married, has no children and lives in an isolated mountain area. He is also unemployed and mainly lives outside of an inheritance. I know all this because everything Paul ever speaks.

Today, I told him I was done entering this trick and would not talk to him until he made some changes. I know I’m daring, but I need to know if I make the right movement. Do I have? – Witness of a disaster

Dear Witness: I don’t think you have to complete the rest of the rest with your very mixed brother. I think that if Paul returns a conversation to Iris’ topic, you will do him a favor to emphasize that a relationship with him will not happen. Then turn the conversation to things that can help him, including finding a job that will make him less isolated and booked more sessions with his therapist.

Dear Abby: I have known my best friend, “Carl”, and his wife for 30 years. We do everything together – navigations, holidays, birthdays, etc. They allow (and enable) their boxer dog to go after innocent cats and squirrels. Likes like it is a game. The dog does not know any other.â

I recently adopted two house cats. I live in the country, and I also have a 5-year-old lab that would not hurt a rabbit. I can no longer allow Carl and his wife to visit because they have allowed their dog to terrorize kittens and squirrels in their neighborhood. I know she will make me be a zuzar and refuse to come if the dog cannot. Carl and I continue to avoid the conversation. Any advice? – Terrified in Oklahoma

Dear Terrified: As I see you have two choices. Each I have Conversations you have avoided or visited your friend only in their home or in neutral territory. Honestly, I am browsing the owners of some of those innocent cats have not informed the authorities that a wild dog hurt or killed their pet. If you have done so, Carl’s wife is sadist, you should have made the call.

PS Why are you still friends with crawling like this?

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