Dear Abby: I abandoned my daughter as a child – I’m upset she didn’t invite me to her wedding

Dear abby: Twenty years ago, I developed psychosis with a personality change. I thought I was ashamed. I had an affair, remarried and left the country, leaving my 13-year-old daughter with my ex-husband. I withdrew from him 15 years ago with the help of a good psychiatrist and excellent medicines. I will regret my behavior and have made every effort to change things. However, my relationship with my daughter has never known despite my apologies, sadness and deep shame.

Fast-Forward: My daughter recently married and invited her father, but not me. I was destroyed. I have tried so much for so many years to restore confidence and tell what I love it. I know I can’t force her to forget me, but stops me from her wedding brings me tears every time I think about it.

I have a therapist and am working hard to recover from my stupidity period all those years ago. I love my daughter very much. Can you think of anything I can do to heal our relationship, or should I just make collision unless and until it forgives me? – In a state in Washington

Dear: I know neither you nor your daughter except what you have described me. Continue to talk to your therapist for instructions. This individual is more familiar with your story and how much you have tried to repair you caused. Your therapist is the most qualified to help you cross the “bumpy” road forward.

Dear abby: I have a long friend, “Erin”, who is my age (in the early 1960s). She retired a few months ago and told me several times since she has stopped wearing bra. I thought she would say around the house but it means all Erin time is generous and has the “headlights”. In warm weather, she is less likely to wear a cardigan, so the lack of a bra or anything else to maintain a little modesty, except that wearing her shirts to a larger size has begun to disturb me .

I normally don’t care what other women wear. But I crush on the Erin around my husband and other friends, and I don’t want to go out with him anymore. Am I a prud? If that were something of a random, I would ignore it. But that seems to be forever. If I say something, what should I say? – Can’t remove this in California

Dear cannot stop painting: If your tall friend is not aware of how much of her “possessions” are on the show, one has to tell her. If she asks why you have a distance yourself, be true. (You may be doing her favor.) So no, Hawver, wait for her to stop doing what she is doing. Erin has the right to go Brales if he wants. Only you can decide if the lack of her dress is the reason to end a long friendship.

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