Dear Abby: My sister-in-law keeps kissing my boyfriend on the lips

Dear ABBY: I recently realized that my sister-in-law kisses my boyfriend on the mouth every time she greets him. We all live in the same city and often get together for dinners and events. I love my SIL and I don’t believe she would do anything to hurt me or my brother. Our families and my mother are all close.

This all came to light after a recent dinner where my brother noticed this kiss (and a cheek rub) and asked her. My boyfriend told me about it and he doesn’t think it’s a big deal. He says it would be rude to submit his site instead. I told him I’m not comfortable with that and that it wouldn’t be rude to enforce a boundary.

I’m trying not to make a big deal out of this, but I’m angry at both SIL and my boyfriend for not telling me about this sooner. I feel betrayed and now I’m feeling suspicious. I’ve toyed with asking him to stop, but it feels kind of juvenile and insecure to mention it to him. Please give me your honest and unbiased opinion. – CAPTURED IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR RECEIVED SUBSCRIBE: Because it bothers you so much that you’re going to write to me about it, say something to your sister-in-law. Tell him that it may be innocent, but the idea of ​​someone other than you kissing your boyfriend on the mouth makes you uncomfortable, so you ask him to stop. Your feelings are your feelings and you don’t need to apologize for them.

Dear ABBY: I’m 12 years old and I’m dating a guy from my class. I know what you’re thinking, but no, we haven’t had sex or kissed, and he doesn’t pressure me. My problem is something else – TEXTING! He texts me every morning and talks throughout the day. He often texts in the middle of an activity like going to the beach or flying a kite, and actually apologizes for getting in the water and stopping the texting.

I can’t spend that much time in contact because I have other things in my life. Although I really like it, I don’t want to spend so much time texting anyone. Plus, our conversations are getting boring because neither of us has anything more to say.

Abby, I feel guilty that I can’t keep the conversations going. He has an active social life, so it’s not like he depends on me for entertainment. He’s a really nice guy. There is only this issue of messages. What should I do? — MANY CONTACTS IN CALIFORNIA

VERY DEAR: Be completely honest with the guy. Tell him that you think he’s a really nice guy and you like him, but that you have things to do besides texting constantly. (It’s the truth.) Then give him a few times when you’ll welcome his texts. This is called setting boundaries, and starting at your age, it’s a very good practice.

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