A couple who say swinging saved their relationship is now helping other couples get their spark back — despite trolls telling them it’s tearing people apart.
Jem Jones, 44, and her partner Daz, 41, began exploring “ethical non-monogamy” five years after dating – as they had always been interested in it.
The pair enjoyed opening up about their relationship so they could both sleep with other couples – but stopped swinging after the pressures of building a business together took over.
But after realizing their relationship was struggling, they got back into swinging — and thought it saved their relationship.
Now they “give back” and help other couples in the bedroom – giving them directions to the on-the-go community if it’s something they feel open to.
Despite trolls saying the swing is “hoax” and that they’re “breaking up marriages,” Jem and Daz love the lifestyle and hope to continue changing perceptions.
Jem, a content creator, from Bournemouth, Dorset, said: “Swimming really saved us – mentally and getting that connection back.
“People classify it as fraud and say we are ‘breaking up marriages.’
“People are angry about something they don’t understand.
“We’re having the best time in our 40s.”
Jem and Daz put Tinder on in June 2015 and hit it off immediately.
Jem said: “I had just got out of a marriage and went on for some fun.
“I didn’t expect to find someone with whom I had a strong connection.”
The pair have always been adventurous in the bedroom.
Jem said: “I did threesomes when I was 16.
“Daz has always been fun in the bedroom.
“We have always talked about an open relationship.
“But we were exclusive to each other for the first five years.”
Jem decided to bring up the idea of an open relationship after they had been together for five years.
Daz said: “I’ve never been in an open relationship before.
“We both had monogamous relationships that didn’t work out.”
After agreeing to dip their toe into that realm, Jem took Daz to a swinging event for his Christmas present.
Jem said: “It was this beautiful mansion and exclusive party. It has a sexy dungeon and swimming pool.
“It was a shock, but it opened our eyes to this new world.
“We had a kiss with another couple and it really turned us on. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other for two weeks.
“We had a really strong relationship – it was something exciting and fun to explore.
“We entered very slowly.”
Over the next few years, Jem and Daz slowly began to explore more of the living community—eventually doing full exchanges with other couples.
Daz admits he struggled with jealousy at first – but was always open with Jem about it.
He said: “There were feelings of jealousy that we had to deal with after our first experience with another couple.
“I was quite confrontational with Jem – I said ‘I’m not enjoying this and you’re enjoying it too much’.
“But I realized that as a boy I was thinking about what other people would think.
“These feelings of jealousy will always be there – but they don’t control me.
“It doesn’t affect our relationship.”
But when they started a contracting business together in 2021 – swings took a back seat.
Jem said: “It put a massive strain on our relationship.
“The business took over our lives.”
But in 2023, Jem realized their relationship was struggling and talked Daz into getting back into the swing of things.
She said: “I said ‘we had fun together’, ‘we went to these sex parties’.
“Let’s get back to enjoying life and each other.”
They decided to go to a club event to get back into the “sexy environment” and make friends.
Now the couple makes sure to find time to enjoy each other and the community on the move.
They mix it up with full exchanges, parties and events, as well as having an “authentic” Only Fans account.
Jem said: “We’re not going out just looking for sex with people.
“We go on dates with a couple and go away for the weekend with nice friends.
“We want to tell people – this works for us and it can work for you.”
The couple now often have others come to them for advice.
Jem, who is also an accredited trainer, said: “You don’t have to go down the swing route.
“We’re talking to couples and helping them reconnect – helping them in the bedroom to talk about their fantasies.”
Daz said: “There are a lot of couples around our age where that early relationship energy has passed – through career, family or something else.
“People start looking elsewhere for excitement and desire.
“There’s a whole lifestyle you can explore as a couple.
“It keeps people together. It keeps the excitement going.
“The alternative is to go and cheat – physically or mentally.
“So many broken relationships could have been saved.”
Jem and Daz hope to encourage couples to talk to each other about their sexual desires.
Daz said: “This is a journey to explore – everyone has their own levels.
“You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.”
Jem said, “The key is to keep talking about it.”
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