Why do I regret marrying a man with a well-paying job?

Money can’t buy happiness and one mother believes she is living proof.

She says her husband’s well-paying job has come at a sad cost – her career.

“My husband earns well, not loads, but realistically it will always be more than me. Of course, that means my career has had to take a back seat while I’m at home with the kids,” she explained.

“No extra support – it falls on me”

She admits that her lifestyle differs from others.

“I know some get by without any compromise,” she said.

“But we don’t have extra support and someone has to do the things related to the children. That falls on me.”

Currently, the mother works part-time, but she is not satisfied.

“Sometimes I wish I had the luxury of working more,” she said. “I miss work and independence.”

Attending a mothers’ forum, she sought closure. However, the responses were mixed.

“A Lifetime Choice”

However, comments were completely divided over her dilemma.

“I don’t follow logic. Why does he earn well means that your career should take a back seat? Millions of couples both have high-paying jobs!” one commenter wrote.

“Then it’s a lifestyle choice. You can choose more equality in your relationship, more time with the kids for him and less money in general,” argued another.

But for the family, the solution is not so straightforward.

“Could I insist that he quit his job? I’m not sure I can. A reluctant and disgruntled stay-at-home or part-time dad? It’s hardly a good idea,” she said.

Some commenters sympathized with her concerns, while others questioned why the matter was not addressed before she gave birth.

“I mean, if you went into marriage and parenthood with him knowing that, then what did you think was going to happen when the kids came?” asked one person.

For this, she accepted her supervision.

“I will hold my hands up and admit that I was very naive. I did not estimate how much the children receive”, she confessed.

Almost all the solutions offered were not suitable.

The family can’t afford a nanny, they can’t move to find better childcare options, and the mother can’t work from home.

“I think you can understand that this is the best for everyone at the moment, but also be a little frustrated by it,” she said.