I’m a mom of one in NYC and kids aren’t worth it – here’s what I wish I knew before starting a family

Get over the trauma and don’t be a mother, warns a heartbroken woman.

Having tics is “not worth the hassle,” says a NYC lifestyle influencer who’s influencing childless women to forgo motherhood for the sake of their health — unless, of course, they’re blessed with three her top “must-haves” for parenting success. .

“Are children worth it?” Dominiece Regis, a married mother of three-year-old son Levi, wrote in the caption of a highly controversial video. “The answer is no, they are not.”

Sharing her dubious nuggets of wisdom with over 672,000 shared TikTok viewers, Regis then urged loving mothers not to give up if they’re not equipped with a reliable partner, financial resources and a strong support system .

“If you don’t have those three things, kids aren’t worth it,” the New Yorker insisted no-nonsense. “Don’t risk your life for it. Don’t risk your mind for it.”

It is a counsel against sons born of burning burdens.

Mothers and fathers around the world have lamented unashamedly the mental and emotional ills of raising a brood, including constant fatigue, stress and anxiety.

Researchers from Ohio State University found that 57% of American parents are plagued by burnout, which, in turn, affects the overall well-being of their children.

Alicia Murray, a Big Apple mom of six-month-old and three-year-old boys, recently admitted she “dreads” the thought of spending time with her busy posse.

“I had this difficulty waking up and being with my children all day,” she confessed. “I don’t think we were meant to be full-time parents.”

And Regis seems to agree.

“I wish I understood more about the struggles or complexities of balancing parenthood and life beforehand,” the millennial told What’s The Jam.

“Here in the United States, it’s very normal for both parents, like me and my husband, to work 40 hours a week, to have to leave and pick up the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, do nighttime routines , to entertain and educate the children when they are at home”, she said. “Then, on top of that, if you’re lucky enough and not too many people, you can spend the money on nurturing your relationship with your partner (ie date night) and taking family vacations.”

“And on top of that, continue to nurture yourself as a person and a mother,” Regis said.

“It’s quite difficult and it was quite attractive to me – and I only have one child at the moment.”

And though she admitted that openly discussing the pains of parenting is often a “sensitive” subject to broach online, Regis doubled down on her top three must-haves for overcoming anxiety.

“I mentioned that having kids is worth it that you need a good partner, support, resources — but mostly money and a support system,” said the content creator, counting her husband Chad as a pillar of strength .

“You don’t have to have all three, you do, but at least two of the three,” Regis continued. “I have all three, however our main support system – the grandparents – are not in the same condition as us, so I can understand what parenting is like without a close village around me.”

Luckily for her, cash closes that gap.

“I have the resources to pay someone to help,” Regis said, adding that “motherhood or parenting is not meant to be done alone, nor should it be just survival parenting.”

And while a host of social media mums echoed her sentiments, a collection of naysayers brutally branded Regis and her supporters “bad mums”.

“I am a single mother and my child was worth it to me”, commented a proud parent.

“I’m a single mother from a village of zero and I don’t have much money, but motherhood has changed me in the best way. I don’t regret anything,” barked another mother.

“I hope I never get to the stage where I think my child wasn’t worth it,” said an equally outraged viewer.

However, Regis’ feelings remain the same.

“I’m not really phased,” she said, estimating that roughly 85% of moms comment below her after “getting” the message. “I am very confident in my motherhood journey and I know what I have said is valid.”

“Those who get it, get it”.